There is a certain wisdom in encouraging both men and women to not spend their lives seeking some hyper-idealized mate. Mostly because they are usually fictional characters. But I find the advice of Lori Gottlieb, author of “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough,” to be a little discomforting.

However, I suspect I’m not nearly as uncomfortable as the husband of the woman who wrote the book review. He must be thrilled to know that while she loves him, her choice to marry him was motivated by the book’s advice to settle for practical stable relationships rather than ones that stir your passions.

Yes, many of us men recognize that we are not prime beef, and weren’t so even in our prime. There is an appeal to having a woman out of your league settle for you. When that happens, we do recognize that we are damned lucky. But we at least like to delude ourselves with the notion that there was some endearing quality about us that caused our major league babe to date in the minors. Something that, at least in her eyes, elevated us to her level. We got called up to play, maybe just in this game, but we will remember for the rest of our lives that we got the call.

Maybe you ladies are actually aware that you settled for a troll with a steady job, but fer cryin’ in yer beer, DON’T TELL US!!